‘Once in a while,
In the middle of an ordinary life,
Love gives us a fairytale’ – Anonymous
When I was much younger I read and watched, ‘The Princess Diaries’ which was about an unpopular teenager, Mia, who discovered she was heir to the throne of the fictional kingdom of Genovia. She was very unprepared for the role and the responsibilities of being a Princess as she was your average teenager living the ordinary life. To be prepared for her role, she had to take princess lessons from her Queen Grandmother on how to act adequately. I remember vividly that it was from watching that movie that I learnt how to sit as a princess. (Who remembers that movie? Smiles)
However, thinking through Meghan Markle’s story, she was no Mia; without a shadow of doubt she was prepared for royalty. You see, at a young age of eleven (11), she already had opinions on global issues and started lending her voice to such passions. It is clearly evidenced that Meghan has been a globe-trotter and very well into fine dining and experimental cuisine even before meeting her Prince, so you can agree with me she was ‘royalty-being-cooked-up’ ready to be given an opportunity.
Naturally, she could easily strike you as your regular California girl, with several odds stacked up against her. Few examples:
• She is bi-racial (her mother is black);
• She is aged 36 and is three years older than her prince (Chai! Here in Nigeria once a lady clocks 30 and is not married, people make it seem like her bride price has reduced LOL! If this Meghan’s story involves bride pride reduction, please I want! LOL);
• She is a divorcée (Pictures from her first wedding were all over the media);
• She is a child of divorced parents, raised by a single mom; and
• Her mom is not the Queen, but a (beautiful) yoga instructor with dreads and a nose piercing.
However, she did not allow her past or background to undermine the royal blood within, but instead focused on the greater perspectives that her background or past experiences gave to her to stay winning. Remember how I had earlier said that she was already into fine dining and experimental cuisine before meeting her Prince? In her words this was how she got into that, “I’m a California girl, right? I grew up with that farm-to-table dining before it was sweeping the nation,” she said. “I do think there’s some value to really throwing yourself into food and embracing where it comes from.” More so her acting career comes in so handy for this new life she is getting into (as she is already a natural stunner in the limelight). She took the good from her experiences and allowed herself to shine.
Now her story or reality is this:
• The world is celebrating her and analyzing her life as a success story.
• She was warmly received by the royal family (Prince Charles even walked her down the aisle as her dad was unavailable to do so on health grounds).
• She has been acknowledged as royalty for the rest of her life, as she has been engrafted into the royal home (and of course her children are automatically royalty too, smiles)
• She is a Princess FOR LIFE!!!!! (Imagine me literally screaming).
P.S. Meghan and Harry were introduced by a mutual friend, on a blind date (Side eye to all my friends. LOL)
The Royal Wedding has come and gone but we have some major lessons to learn as DIVAs. My first take home is that no matter how tainted your background or story seems, within you lies royalty, depending on your perspective and how intentional you are about life. Your past does not define you. No matter what your past has been like, there is always hope for a better and brighter future. If someone had told fifteen-year old Meghan posing for a picture in front of Buckingham Palace that she would about twenty-two years later be returning there and calling it ‘home’, I can bet that she would have laughed it off.
Secondly, the art of being mindful about the friends or network you nurture. Your network of friends can be equated to your net-worth and they can make or mar you. I read that the ambitious and well achieved Serena Williams is Meghan’s confidant and she said their major connection was a common belief system they share ‘… in exceeding expectations–our endless ambition’ and I respected her the more for this.
I would love to hear your take home or lessons learnt in the whole Meghan’s Royalty transition tale. (Smiles).