By: Yomi Soremi
I trust that we are all having a beautiful day. In all honesty, I know that not all of us are having a good day probably because of the work load, stress and all of that but I want you to know that God is your strength and it will definitely get better.
So today on the blog, I’d be sharing one of the key things that has helped my spiritual growth which is INTENTIONALLY engaging myself in edifying conversations that build.
From time past, women have been tagged as “vocal beings” and it’s been mostly geared towards the negative aspect. However, as women made in the very image of God and who carry the power of life and death in our tongue, our conversations should tell a difference. They should stir people unto righteousness and lift up downcast hearts instead of burdening hearts.
Let’s take a look at some scriptures.
Colossians 4:6( MSG) says “Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation not put them down, not cut them out.”
Ephesians 4:29(AMP) says “Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk (ever) come out of your mouth, but only such (speech) as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others,as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favour) to those who hear it.
Ephesians 4:29(MSG) says ” Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.”
Ephesians 5:4 (MSG) says Though some tongues just love the taste of gossip, Christians have better uses for language than that. Don’t talk dirty or silly. That kind of talk does not fit our style. Thanksgiving is our dialect.
The truth is that we say so many random things everyday that we don’t take notice of. When you say something like “Nigeria sha!!!! Corruption can never be wiped out from this country, it’s impossible.” It shows that what is informing your thought pattern is what the world has said and facts according to the course of this world but a woman whose thought pattern is informed by the Word naturally speaks life.
Remember Romans 12:1 says that we should not be conformed to the pattern of this world but we should be transformed by the renewal of our minds. It’s not so we can only have good thoughts and be sweet at heart but because out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks and we must speak forth life.
When a sister engages in a conversation with you about another sister, instead of basking in gossip, you could just hold her hand and say “okay let’s pray for her.” You didn’t expect that reply, did you? I know we have heard this line before but do you know it is very effective and asides that it causes our dear sister to be convicted in her heart producing repentance thereby saving ourselves and our sisters. Now you’ve edified your sister, you’ve stirred her up unto righteousness and godliness.
The relationship we share with our sisters should be one in which we can tell ourselves the truth at all times and not take offense. I know it’s hard, it’s really hard. I can’t imagine telling my sister about another sister and she’s telling me “let’s pray for her”, I could get offended like “so what do you mean” but you see I should be able to see wisdom and salvation at work at that moment. Psalm 141:5 (JPS) says ” Let the righteous man smite and correct me– it is kindness. Oil so choice let not my head refuse or discourage” meaning that we should be glad and happy that we even have sisters around us that can help keep us in check at all times.
So as you step out this week and beyond, consciously watch your conversations, what you utter and what you allow into your heart. Remember, your thought pattern informs your conversations. Ask yourself “is this going to bring out the best in others or is it going to sow seeds of hatred and pollute hearts?”
God help us as we walk with Him. Shalom.